“We were together, but not together. We weren’t communicating. We weren’t spending any time together. We were resentful,” says Cathy of the rocky period in her marriage four years ago that finally drove her to broach the subject of couples counselling with her husband, Seán.

In the years leading up to the crisis, Seán says, “we literally fell from such a big height. We had been through bereavement, redundancies, IVF, miscarriages, before we finally had our kids, who were still babies. We were in trouble with the bank over our home. I knew something had to be done.”

His attitude was: “You’ve taken everything else from me. I’m not going to let you take my marriage.”

Conflict over money, parenting and infidelity are common reasons to seek counselling.

Psychotherapist Helen Vaughan, who runs Maynooth Counselling in Co Kildare, says “how to communicate well” is one of the key skills she teaches couples. “You get each person to reflect back what the other said through ‘active listening’. Learning to communicate is the key.”

Read the full article, including the experiences of three couples, here.

At Maynooth Counselling, we work with a huge range of issues for adults, children and couples. These include:

  • One to one therapy
  • Child & adolescent counselling
  • Parenting issues
  • Suicide ideation, suicide and self-harm
  • Teen intervention
  • Couples counselling and Imago work
  • Low self-esteem
  • Relationship problems
  • Addiction
  • Anxiety
  • Bereavement/loss
  • Abuse/trauma
  • Depression
  • Loss of meaning/direction
  • Illness
  • Issues around fertility
  • Issues around sexuality
  • Obsessive Compulsive Disorders
  • Eating disorders
  • Fears and phobias